A question every parent contemplates in the wee hours of the night, but hates to face in broad daylight. No wonder, it is a heart-wrenching worry. But you can stop worrying and here's how...
If you die leaving minor children and the other parent survives you, the other parent ordinarily will raise and support them.
If the other parent is not living, your minor children will require a guardian.
A guardian is an individual who is appointed by the court to take custody of the minor child and to have the possession, care and management of their estate.
The guardian is required by law to provide for the minor’s health, education, maintenance and support.
You may appoint a guardian for your minor children in your Will. If you
do not have a Will, or do not appoint a guardian, then the court will make the
selection of a guardian.
Each parent should have a Will nominating the same guardian. If both parents pass away at the same time, there should not be conflicting nominations for guardian in their respective Wills. It can happen especially if the parents are not married or together in another sense.
It is easy to assume responsibility for this important decision as a part of your estate
planning.
You may wish to look first to your contemporaries in your family, such as brothers, sisters, or cousins. You may also wish to consider friends with children in the same age range as your children. You should consult with the proposed guardian to ensure that the person is agreeable to assuming this significant responsibility.
If you are designating a
husband and wife to serve as co-guardians, you should consider whether you want
to specify that both of them are to serve only if they are still married to
each other at the time of the appointment.
If both parents die, your minor children may be left with substantial property interests that need management and protection. You may wish to consider whether the same person is appropriate to care for your children and to manage their property interests.
In loving families, it is often the same person that is appointed as guardian and the trustee of the trust for the minor's benefit. Your attorney will welcome this discussion if you are unsure about who should appointed as guardian and/or trustee.
It is usually a good idea that if upon the death of you and your spouse, a trust be established for your minor children. The trustee should be encouraged to make generous distributions to assist the guardian, including the provision of funds to pay for any necessary expansion of the guardian’s
home.
I think it is a good idea to tell the proposed guardians that they are named in your Will, Living Trust or other estate planning documents.
For more on guardians and estate planning, please see my post on January 25 and another post on January 30.